So hello there. This is going to be a bit personal, but I’m going to vent out on the internet because I want views and opinions(I am open to scrutiny) AND predominantly because I am very very frustrated right now.
As an Indian child, you are expected to act and behave a certain way, and are debarred from doing certain things( certain actually includes ALOT of things you cannot imagine). For children growing in this new generation where there’s such a shift of culture and values- basically children like myself- this “Indian sanskar” is very annoying.
Hear me out alright, and tell me if you find ANY logic in their way of thinking. So as a teenager, you’re disallowed from meeting people of the opposite sex-it’s literally considered a sin. “Hanging out with boys” makes you a girl with low morals. And you’re treated this way until up about 24.
Then you are expected to get married( to the person of the opposite sex of course, because they are unwelcoming to homosexuality and that makes me very angry because it’s even illegal in our country). So they expect you to spend the rest of your life with a boy when they’ve restricted you from hanging out with them ever since a young age. Further more, NOT wanting to have children is a sin. So, now that I have reached a particular age they want me to engage in sexual activity with people of the opposite sex? Hai ram! Isn’t that haram? It’s a sin!!!! How can one do such a thing!
Yes people this is how Indian mentality works, sadly my parents are also like this. They just do not understand that at my age it’s completely natural for people to like each other( in the romantic way) and that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it! Apparently I’m too young to understand what’s love. Maybe they’re wrong, maybe they’re right. But they cannot judge me like this. It seems like they’re never satisfied. By the way this works for boys too. There are so many cases where women are forced into marriages with men they’ve never met before and end up having horrible marriages BUT hey, divorce is not an option. Free will? Woh kya Hota hai? Divorce is considered a taboo. So is sex yeah, but you must have children. Just putting this out there,because it just makes so much sense you see.
Also another point I would like to bring up here is how limited our career choices are here. It’s either Doctor or Engineer or be shunned by society. Beta, study study study. I’m going to become a doctor by the way, not because of my parents but because I am in love with the subject of medicine, I want to save lives, and probably discover something interesting along the way. Of course they don’t give a fuck about any of this 🙂 they just want to boast to the rest of the family members( I have atleast 200 cousins I haven’t even met) about their daughter being a doctor. YAY!
There’s more I’ve gotta say, but tell you later, good bye for now